I went to my first appointment with the highly recommended fertility doctor and was lectured about how he could not "ethically" treat me because I was "obviously so self destructive" and once I show that I'm "serious about wanting help" getting pregnant (by loosing weight) then to come back and we can talk about it. He said that there are many birth defects that babies of fat mom's are prone to (but couldn't tell me what they were) AND that I was at a much higher risk for death if I were to get pregnant (even though he said many times that he had delivered healthy babies to women much larger than myself). He told me that by helping me get pregnant that he would also be contributing to the childhood obesity problem because he was sure that my children would be fat. He, and his nurse, attempted to refer me to a "bariatic specialist" because there are GREAT results with the Roux-En-Y procedure (but earlier he was concerned that I might die...right....)!

He did acknowledge that I'm healthy--on paper--no abnormal blood work, blood pressure, etc. With the exception of Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome, which includes being fat as a SYMPTOM.

SO that's that. No babies for my fat ass, because obviously my parenting abilities are determined by the fact that I'm fat.

And we can't adopt because of Vic's record from his college days--one charge, no conviction, but because it was something that COULD have hurt someone...now he is an unfit parent.

SO unless it starts raining babies, it looks like we will be shopping for a new poodle soon...